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Thursday, September 17, 2015

Romanticizing Abuse - Joker and Harley


Let me be clear, if you are a fan of the Joker, I have no problem. If you are a fan of the of the Joker and Harley Quinn, I have no problem. If you find their story and dynamic fascinating, then I have no problem. Hell, I find them to be great characters with an interesting story and dynamic. But if you find it romantic, cute, and something to aspire to in your own relationship, then, quite frankly, you either missed the point, you're an idiot, or you're just plain sick.

What prompted this entry? For a while now, I've been seeing these memes of Joker and Harley popping up as a lovey dovey couple and a romance that "weirdos in love" should aspire to. And it's not just one or two people I've seen doing it, it's a lot of people. Fans of comics and even comic creators have been doing this. And I stare at them all dumbfounded.

Here's a few examples. There are more. There are a lot more.

Several years ago, a friend of mine told me that she was creeped out by people who got tattoos of the dark mark from JK Rowling's Harry Potter series. To her, the dark mark represented racism, fascism, outright Nazism. In the series that is definitely true, but for real life I admit I thought she was taking it a little bit too seriously. I understand her point of view better now when I see all of these postings, means, pictures, etc that people are posting for their significant others of the Joker and Harley Quinn as if this is the relationship they want to have. And it sickens me.

The Joker doesn't love Harley Quinn. In his own words, Harley is his "henchwench". Nothing more to him, nothing less to him. She is a tool. She is being used. She is being abused. She goes crawling back for more. This isn't a love for the ages, this is Nicole Brown Simpson and OJ. This is Edward being creepy and controlling of Bela as written by people who know better than Stephanie Meyer. This is NOT SOMETHING TO ASPIRE TO!

If you "weirdos in love" want to aspire to any romance, Gomez and Mortica Addams comes to mind. There are also much better villainous couples out there.

As for why Harley and Joker are a vile relationship to emulate? Let me start with a video I've been posting in response every time I see that meme.

Can't watch videos? Let's take a look at key pages from the comic that was based on.

Still not good enough? Still not convinced? Then let's take a look at the real life equivalent of all this.

Every time you say you want what Joker and Harley have, this is what you're saying you want.

*Drops the mic*